With great chagrin we recognize that the state of self-realization cannot be sustained. I think many people fear this experience. Certain things seem to take the realization away, as if the rug gets pulled out from under us. And, in some sense, it is literally so—something gets pulled out from under you, and you fall. You can’t keep the realization you had, or the sense of uniqueness. This can happen on any level of human actualization, from the most ordinary to the most refined kind of inner realization.
Half of the work of self-realization really has to do with the integration of support, not just attaining the state of realization. In order for realization to become a permanent attainment there needs to be support for realization. This is the reason it is possible to achieve a state of self-realization and to lose it— you don’t have the support for it. – Diamond Heart Book Three: Being and the Meaning of Life, Ch. 8
The usual way that people handle a loss of support is by trying to find it in other relationships, trying to find it in another career, another situation, another belief, or another philosophy. That’s the usual way. The real way to find your own support is to live in a way that will support what you know. Right? So feeling the lack of support will help you feel the true support and believe in it. If you do that then it is possible for you to regain your own support. When you can see and understand the truth of the situations in your life, the truth will be your support. Finding your true support means true nature has become your refuge. – A. H. Almaas, Diamond Heart Book Three: Being and the Meaning of Life, Ch. 8