We do not simply need to be seen; we need to be seen with admiration, kindness, appreciation, love, precision, clarity, joy, excitement, and so on. These needs are totally met when we start seeing ourselves with these qualities, reflecting the presence of these essential qualities in the mirroring awareness. The clear medium then appears with the beautiful yellow of Joy, reflecting seeing ourselves happily; or with the soft pink of Love, reflecting seeing ourselves with sweetness and love; or with the emerald green of Loving Kindness, reflecting seeing ourselves with kindness and sensitivity; or with the deep amber of Value, as we see ourselves with appreciation and esteem; or with the brilliant ruby red of Strength, reflecting seeing ourselves with excitement and aliveness; or with the rich apricot color of Fulfillment, reflecting being fulfilled by seeing ourselves; and so on. – The Point of Existence: Transformation of Narcissism in Self-Realization, ch. 35
What is the child going to think? She believes her parents know everything, that they’re wonderful and perfect. Then the parents don’t see who she is. If you were a child, what would you conclude? Who you are must not be good enough; you must be flawed. What do you do then? You reject yourself. You reject yourself because you feel they reject you. The moment you reject who you are, there’s a hole left, and you don’t see yourself any more. – A. H. Almaas, Diamond Heart Book Three: Being and the Meaning of Life, Ch. 5
The slightest indication of not being seen will evoke deep pain, intolerable anguish, endless tears about a bottomless grief. When investigated, rather than reacted to, this hurt reveals an emotional wound of staggering depth and profundity. – A. H. Almaas, The Point of Existence: Transformations of Narcissism in Self-Realization